The Dos and Don'ts of a Killer Maid of Honor Speech

The maid of honor speech is an important part of any wedding reception. It's an opportunity to celebrate the couple, share memories, and express your love and support for the couple. However, it can also be a nerve-wracking experience, especially if you're not used to public speaking. To help you deliver a memorable and heartfelt speech, we've put together a list of the dos and don'ts of a maid of honor speech.

The Dos of a Maid of Honor Speech

  1. Start with a personal anecdote or memory that highlights the bride's qualities and personality. This will set the tone for the rest of the speech and help you connect with the audience.
  2. Make sure to also talk about positive qualities of the other partner too! Having your speech be 70% about your person and 30% about the other person is a good rule of thumb. Talk about what makes them 1) a great person 2) a great match for your friend.
  3. Keep it brief and to the point. A maid of honor speech should be no longer than five minutes.
  4. Practice your speech beforehand. Rehearse in front of a mirror or with a friend to help you feel confident and comfortable on the day.
  5. Speak clearly and slowly. Take your time and remember to breathe. Don't rush through your words or mumble.
  6. Express your gratitude to the bride and groom for including you in their special day. This is a great opportunity to show your love and support for the couple.
  7. Share a message of hope and encouragement for the newlyweds. Wish them a lifetime of happiness and love.

The Don'ts of a Maid of Honor Speech

  1. Don't use inside jokes or stories that only a few people will understand. This can make the audience feel left out and disengaged.
  2. Don't include embarrassing stories or anecdotes that could make the bride or partner uncomfortable. Remember that this is their day, and you want to celebrate them in a positive way.
  3. Don't drink too much alcohol before your speech. While it can be tempting to calm your nerves with a drink, it's best to stay sober and focused.
  4. Don't use profanity or inappropriate language. This is a formal event, and you want to be respectful of the couple and their guests.
  5. Don't be negative or critical. Even if you have reservations about the marriage, it's not appropriate to voice them in a public setting.
  6. Don't forget to end your speech on a positive note. Finish with a heartfelt message that celebrates the couple's love and commitment to each other.

A maid of honor speech is a wonderful opportunity to celebrate the bride and couple and share your love and support for them. By following these dos and don'ts, you can deliver a memorable and heartfelt speech that will be cherished for years to come.

Ready to start crafting your perfect maid of honor speech? Sign up for our Toast Builder today to help you knock it out of the park. When using the Toast Builder, the couple can share their preferred length and thoughts on what not to say, so that can be very helpful for anyone giving a speech.

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